I got my third eye pierced the other day. Last week I drove 1700 miles to South Carolina and back for a very special festival called gratifly. I have found a new lust for life and am happy to be traveling. The love of my life left me three days ago to hop freight trains. I’m driving to boston tonight and just running around for a few days. In two weeks, my best friend and I are driving to burning man- 6000 miles from New York to black rock city and back. I am free.
Love involves more than just feelings. It is also a way of behaving. When Sandy said, “My parents don’t know how to love me,” she was saying that they don’t know how to behave in loving ways. If you were to ask Sandy’s parents, or almost any other toxic parents, if they love their children, most of them would answer emphatically that they do. Yet, sadly, most of their children have always felt unloved. What toxic parents call “love” rarely translates into nourishing, comforting behavior.